Are You Ever Afraid To Try A New Recipe
Are you ever afraid to try a new recipe? Do you ever find yourself intimidated by the idea of baking or cooking something you’ve been dreaming about trying?
Have you ever found a recipe that just cries out to you, begging for you to make and taste it, and yet you can’t get up the nerve to even begin?
You know you want to, but you’re mentally frozen in place…
It happens to me all the time! I’ve been in and around kitchens all my life, and I know my way around a stove and oven pretty darn well. And yet, there are certain recipes that still seem so incredibly intimidating I’m afraid to even begin.
So, here’s the question… How do you (or I) get beyond that wall of fear? How do we bring ourselves to pull up our big boy or big girl pants and just dive in? Whether it’s baking or cooking… what’s the trick to simply getting started?
As I’ve pondered this question, both for me personally, and for you as well, it makes me think about life in general. So often I’ve found myself afraid to start something new. What if I fail? What if I’m not good enough? What if no one else likes it? What if my friends quietly… silently chuckle behind their hands and question why I think I’m good enough to try such a thing?
What if people… my husband… my children… my family… my friends… What if they are all silently wondering who I think I am, having the nerve to start this blog? What do I think I have that’s so darn special when it comes to cooking and baking, or even life, that other people might be interested in?
And then the really big question…
What if I fail? What if no one even bothers to read my posts or look at my recipes? What if…
These questions, and many others, have haunted me a lot over the past few weeks. Have I bitten off more than I can chew? Am I any different than the thousands of other women out there who also thought they had something super special and unique to bring to the table and decided to act on it?
And the super big question… the one that rings the bell for me and haunts me in my sleep… Does it matter?
I’m going to confess right here and now that it’s been a huge struggle. I’ve been tempted to give up repeatedly over the past several months. I’ve taken multiple breaks from baking and taking photographs; a moratorium from publishing recipes as I’ve searched my innermost being to figure out what’s really going on here.
What’s my end goal? What’s my purpose?
Is it to be instantly famous? If so, that ain’t gonna happen!
Is it because I want people on social media to like me? (Is that a serious question???) Yes… actually it is. Social media is toxic and has the ability to draw every single one of us down into a mental, emotional, and virtual dark pit if we’re not careful. But back to the original question…
Do.I.Care.If.People.On.Social.Media.Like.Me? Am I going to count my likes and follows constantly throughout the day and be crushed if they don’t instantly soar into the hundreds or even thousands? Does it matter?!?!?!
After much soul-searching, I’ve come to a place where I can honestly say the answer is “NO.” Sure, I’d like people to read my posts. Absolutely. I’d like people to think my photographs are beautiful, and my recipes amazingly brilliant! But, more than that…
I simply want to create. I want to randomly pull a cookbook from the huge pile sitting on my coffee table, browse through it like a kid in a candy store, put multi-colored sticky notes on nearly every page (because they ALL look and sound delicious – an adventure waiting to happen!) and then dream up my perfect recipe compilation from all the ideas I just tabbed.
And then… I want to get in my kitchen and start baking or cooking (depending on what the recipe calls for). Will I take photos and share the recipe with you? Yes. Will I text my neighbors and ask them to indulge me and taste test the final product? Always!
Will I hope and pray that they all say they love it? Absolutely, yes!!! But most important of all…
Will I have gone into my kitchen filled with the joy of adventure and exploration just to see what I am able to create and serve to those I love? Will I simply watch as my husband or a friend takes their first bite, closes their eyes and sighs with pure pleasure, and know it’s enough for me?
When I know deep in my heart that the answers to those final two questions is yes, I know that I’m doing what I love and I’m doing it for the right reasons.
I love creating. And I love having a platform (a.k.a. website) where I can share it. Someplace where my children, my family, my friends, and you are able to virtually see and taste my creations… and then try them in your own kitchen.
So… to answer my initial question…
If you’re at all like me, sometimes we’re afraid to try a new recipe. Cooking and baking new things is often very intimidating. But so is life. So is this blog. So is sharing our deepest thoughts and fears with each other. But life is a journey, and we can’t travel it if we don’t even try.
Life is a journey full of challenges and fears… and so much of it is wrapped up in learning how to face our fears head-on, working through them to figure out what’s at the root of the fear… and then facing that fear, deciding it will not defeat me (or you) and forging ahead.
To quote Julia Child:
What’s your fear… and why is it still holding you back?